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The Internet

The internet is such a fickle master. We trust it with our lives, and then it betrays us. LinkedIn, only recently the crown jewel of professional networking sites, was crushed today. This service with over 300 million members plunged 25% in value since the stock market opened this morning. Closer home Partners HealthCare, owner of the premier Boston teaching hospitals, announced it had been hacked, with 3300 patients accounts possibly exposed. And how many of us have suddenly awakened from a computer screen stupor to realize how many days, weeks and months we have lost by pursuing online trivialities?

In previous generations peoples identities were formed by interaction with family, community, peers, and yes, even church. Their friends lived in the same block, or maybe across town, but these friends were people they knew well, and who knew them. There was a mutuality of respect, give and take, and interconnectedness. For more and more of us, these formative relationships are being replaced by the siren song of the internet. It seduces us by co-opting our entertainment and work related interests, our spiritual and relational desires, and our hope for significance. It promises to meet these needs and even more, and then delivers far, far less.

Our friends do not live in the yellow house across from the old ball field any more. We can’t stop by and visit, engaging in real conversation and real connection with real people. Instead of struggling together over questions of values and beliefs, we scan profiles. Our friends today live on Facebook or Pinterest or Instagram. We don’t engage with them in a solid, human connection. We “friend” them and “like” their posts. We may not even know their real name. It often seems we are trying to develop a relationship with pixels that disappear with the click of a mouse.

There is no question the internet brings a tremendous new world into our lives, and that we have the potential to be empowered beyond the wildest imaginations of previous generations.
Yet if this incredible new force is not held in check by a balanced worldview that includes the presence of God in our lives, the internet could very easily become our master. Our fickle master. We all know people whose lives seems to have easily lost the equivalent of LinkedIn’s 25% plunge in value as they settle for the online world over the real one. As Christians we must realize Jesus came to us as God in the flesh. That is the only way we could see what God is really like — a cute photo on Snapchat just wouldn’t work. 

Oh, by the way, if you’re on LinkedIn, feel free to add me to your connections.

Easter Power

Jesus Christ was dead. Jesus Christ is risen! Jesus Christ is forever alive!

Those three statements point out the possibility of the most profound yet unimaginable change in our own lives occurring as we come into a living connection with God. That connection happens as we trust Jesus Christ as our Savior, receive by faith the benefits of the wholeness and hope he gives, and follow him as we live the rest of our lives.

Jesus Christ was dead. His early followers had watched him die on the cross, and heard him cry with his last breath “It is finished.” None of us have reached the end of our own lives yet and experienced physical death. All of us, however, have a past that is already dead to us. We have memories from the past. Some are good. Still others are painful and haunting. We relish the precious times from earlier years, and are sometimes haunted by our other decisions and deeds. There is no way for us to relive the good and correct the bad. It is gone, dead.

The good news is Jesus has dealt with our past. By his death on the cross he fixed the sinful and dead past life of every believer. Jesus death changes the very nature of who we are and frees us to live in communion  with God. The Bible says “…everyone who believes in him receives forgiveness of sins through his name.” (Acts 10:43) As we receive forgiveness and new life flows into us we become reborn as children of God.

Jesus Christ is risen! We know the sacrifice Jesus made for our sins is effective because God’s power was demonstrated in a most radical way. Jesus did not remain dead. He is risen! His resurrection was something totally outside the normal working of the universe. In one mighty act God reversed the course of everything and created righteousness out of sin, life out of death.

We have a living Savior. Jesus, resurrected to life again, made the promise to his followers that he would be with them every day of their lives, everywhere they found themselves. Because of who he is, and how his authority was verified by countless eye witnesses, we can trust that what he says is true. Christ is with those who belong to him. He hears our prayers, provides sustainable support, rekindles hope, and walks with us day by day.

Jesus Christ is forever alive! When he rose from the dead, Jesus broke the powerful force of death. Because he lives, we can face tomorrow. By God’s powerful act the biggest threat facing us is defeated. The resurrection proves that life exists beyond the grave. No longer do we need to be controlled by fear of the end of our existence. While it may be appropriate to dread the process of our dying, death itself is but a transition into the place where Jesus lives. Imagining what continuing our lives in the home of God is impossible in our limited human knowledge. If we listen to what Jesus says, however, we can even begin to discover snippets of what that life shall be like, and it’s going to be good!

Jesus Christ was dead. Jesus Christ is risen! Jesus Christ is forever alive!

May those three truths provide you with a road map of hope for life. The Christian’s past, present, and future are changed by the power of Jesus Christ and his resurrection. This is the good news of Easter. Believe it, live it, enjoy it, and share it with the blessing and power of God.

Where Have All Our Neighbors Gone?

Jesus said the most important thing is to love God, and then to love our neighbor. It seems like a pretty simple thing, at least until we step back and assess how well we are doing it. Most of us at that time admit we need some help if we are to actually do what Jesus said was basic to our faith.

One of the difficulties in following this commandment, apart from our hesitancies to fully give ourselves to God, and our prejudices toward the folks around us, and our dislike of having to something we don’t necessarily want to do is that our neighbors seem to have all but disappeared. Where have all the neighbors gone?

We have our families, at least the ones who are alive, around us, and still speak to us. The fortunate among us have a handful of old friends. And then there are the people we spend time with at work. All these are the folks that are more or less close to us.

And then we have our acquaintances. These are people we think we know — on Facebook they are called “friends.” We “like” what they post, and we “like” their friends who then become our friends. Our aquaintances include the pharmacist who gives us our pills at the drugstore. Is her name Rosemary? Or is Rosemary the nice lady who sits two pews behind us in church? She, too, is a an acquaintance. Or is she a friend? Then there is the gentleman in charge of the monthly meeting for civic advancement. He’s such a friendly and competent person. Good to know him.

Where have all the neighbors gone? Missing are the people who fill the middle group, the “neighbor” role. Neighbors are folks who aren’t as close as family or co-workers, but who are still far more significant to us than the Facebook “friend” we barely know. They are the people next door or across town whose names we do know, and whose kids’ names we know. They are people we actually sit down with once in a while over a cup of coffee. Neighbors are the people who notice when we need help, and offer a hand. They let us watch their house while they’re gone, and help rake the snow off our roof. When we are sick they bring us chicken soup, and when they lose a loved one we bring them a casserole.

While people have always had family as a basically close group about them, we are seeing rapid changes to the structure of the family itself. Relocation from the family homestead, the constant alteration of relationships, and the flexibility of individual lifestyles all help make the contemporary family something a little different than families have been in the past.

And then the group farthest removed from us — the acquaintances — has expanded greatly for people today. Whether we count the 250 people who have “friended” us on Facebook, or the rapid ability to zero in on interest groups that catch our attention and fulfill our immediate needs, such as providing health feedback or dissecting the Red Sox’s coming year, there is no doubt our most distant relationships, that of fringe acquaintances, has grown drastically.

So where have all the neighbors gone? Where are the people who provide stability in daily life and human connection when family fails us and perhaps even an affirming arm around our shoulders at a critical time? Perhaps the answer is found within ourselves. Perhaps it’s we who haven’t been all that neighborly. Neighbors don’t just happen but are grown, cultivated. Neighbors take investment, and our behavior and attitudes have an enormous influence in the development of this crucial middle group of folks around us. It’s far more difficult a task to relate to a real neighbor than to “like” someone in cyberspace. Our neighbor’s lawn gets far too unkempt, they vote for the wrong person, and their dog is truly obnoxious.

These pesky neighbors are the people Jesus singled out for us to love. Family usually takes care of itself with more or less a comfortable level of love. Those on the outskirts of our lives are easy to love, since they are too far removed to have irritating faults. If a fault does appear, we "unfriend” them. The neighbors are more complicated. It’s the neighbors who are hard to love. Yet it’s the neighbors Jesus pushed us to love, and then stirred the pot even more by suggesting it is even harder to love God without seeing him, than it is to love our neighbor, who is sometimes too visible. Are we sure Jesus really knew how much effort it would take to love our neighbor? What are we going to do about it now?

Living After Loss

As a pastor I have lived long enough to be sharply aware of our mortality. The past weeks have shown that the First Baptist church family is not immune to the weaknesses of being human. I also continue to have the strong conviction that even in the face of death and other losses, there is hope. Perhaps you or someone you know will find my suggestions about living after loss helpful.

1. It’s a real loss — feel it.

When we live through the death of a person close to us our whole world is knocked off balance. It makes no difference that everyone else who has ever lived has experienced their own losses. Ours is something that hits us alone, and we must go through the valley individually. There is no escape.

Because we had developed a relationship with the one who is gone, there is now a void. The type and depth of connection we had will partially help shape the emotions and behaviors we experience. It is important to know that our grief is probably entirely within the boundaries of what others who have gone through loss have experienced. We are not losing control. We are not going crazy. We are in grief that is real. The pain that dogs us is one of the signs that we are dealing with the loss. Help yourself heal by feeling it. Cry. Scream. Get busy. Do nothing. Beat the stuffing out of a pillow. You are reaffirming your own life in a world that is terribly confusing right now.

Don’t forget to allow yourself to find some balance, to find a little healing when the time is right. At first it may seem artificial to find joy in anything. It may seem forced, or even improper. Experiencing something that seems nurturing or positive may lead to feelings of guilt. Go ahead and do it. As you feed your own soul and take small steps toward embracing life it will not only bring healing to you, but also strengthen a new bond with the one you have lost.

2. Lean on others for support.

The feeling of being alone is often overwhelming. We are convinced that no one else has ever experienced what we are going thorough. No one else can understand. In a way, those thoughts are absolutely right. It is your grief, and only you can experience it. Only you know the relationship that once existed, but now is changed by death. Only you know the ins and outs, the ups and downs, the interesting contours that form when two lives touch one another. If your relationship has been lengthly and close, do not expect to have the loss erased easily. In so many ways, you are alone.

This is the time that you, as a person in grief, must ask for help. Is there somebody else out there who has also loved or known the person whose death has upended your life? Connect with them. Tell stories about the old times. Share memories and cry together.

It is important for you to gather yourself together and take the first step toward finding the other person. People do want to help. We are just awkward in showing that we care. Most of us are not experts in how to be around grief, and we avoid it like the plague. We operate under the false belief that even mentioning the loved one will reopen wounds. We talk about the weather, or anything else to avoid the topic for fear of hurting the living. What those who are hurting need instead is to hear the stories about the one we loved. Tell how Jack or Michelle and the kids built the incredible snowman that was so gigantic that it didn’t melt away until late spring. I promise — there will come a time when it’s easier to share the joy of precious times.

3. Settle up with God.

Sometimes the sense of loss even includes feeling the absence of God. Is God there? Does God really care? Does he know our pain? Have we been left alone in our darkness? If God really is in control, why wasn’t the cancer cured? Why did the plane crash?

If you harbor thoughts like this, please know you are in good company, and be assured that God is big enough to handle your feelings. God loves us just as we are, with all our questions, our doubts, and our anger. Even Jesus asked his Father why he had been abandoned as he hung on the cross. You are not the first person to need a God who is faithful and who has promised to walk with us, even when our own personal faith is quavering and threatening to disappear. Our God does just that.

The good news is that when our whole world has been knocked off balance there is the possibility of rebuilding it into a stronger and more beautiful place than it was before. Going through loss and the accompanying grief often provides the catalyst for new spiritual growth. We begin to know the depth of God’s presence with us, and the fierceness of his commitment to us. The Apostle Paul in the book of Romans gives us the conviction: “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

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